BAD FEEDBACK ON NITEFLIRT ISN’T ALWAYS A BAD THING

I have read on many flirt’s listings where guys will call her just to ‘see if the bad back feedback was warranted”.  They will actually comment on existing bad feedback, “don’t know what the bad reviews are about she was great”.  That means the bad feedback was the reason he called.

So, LET’S not over-react to it.  EVERYONE GETS BAD FEEDBACKS.  Everyone.

Why would a customer call someone with bad feedback?  Frankly, sometimes men just like to see if they are different and can get a good call from someone who has failed with others.  There is one flirt who continually features with about %35 bad and I mean horrible feedback and men still seem to call her.  NOT MANY MIND YOU, but still. Why is that? Competitiveness and curiosity. Men like to compete with each other. 

Combating those feedbacks that keep you from featuring and making good money. 

So, what do you do when you’re new to NiteFlirt Phone Sex or Cam Calls and you only have 4 feedbacks and one of them is 1 star?  That gives you a 4 star total.  Let’s say you have only taken 5 calls and you have just 16 points.  It is going to cost you MORE to feature your listings with that 4 stars.

The answer is that when you’re new and have so few ratings points, DELETE THAT LISTING and start a new one in the same category!  It will cost you less to feature when it gets approved and you can begin again.  This empowers YOU.  Learning how to handle yourself when you’re new can be hard!

Going forward  (training available) you get a leg up by getting training and a listing design that works.

Now what to do to avoid bad feedbacks.

1. Set your customer’s expectations before they call you.  I see so many new flirts with “Hi, I am sexy and hot and want to get you off, call me” This is not informative enough. Invest in your business!
2. Explain whether you are simply a GFE phone sex operator and cannot provide fetish help or if  you’re a dominate woman and wish to spank them.  Those customers who read are likely to spend more money on you.

Some customers are notorious for not reading properly and being braindead when they are aroused but  if  you set your customer’s expectations correctly with a well-written NITEFLIRT LISTING then you can count on a better return.

I can help and so can other flirts’ if you ask nicely in the forums.

Not everyone knows marketing and knows this audience but a little tweak of your copy may make all the difference!

Cheers!

Pedo’s, Pee and Poo, Violence, Rape, and so many more gross topics.

There are some customers who come to you because of what you’ve written on your listing and they think you will be cool with them being pedos.  If your listings show a young girl with a lollipop in her mouth don’t be surprised when someone wants to be your Daddy. If that’s not what you’re into your NITEFLIRT listing needs to changed.  They need to be told in clear language what you will or won’t put up with.  

HOW TO HANDLE NITEFLIRT POLICY BREAKERS

*There are NiteFlirt customers who will talk with you for a long time hoping that in the end once they’ve spent $100 on you that they can ‘go there’ with you.  He is the sneaky one who gains your trust and thinks money will make you lose your morals.  But, he’s spending good money right?  So, we want to keep him on the phone or chat and get those tips, but how do you tell him after an hour, “Sorry, that’s gonna work for me?

Don’t let him think you’re a pushover in the first place!  But, there are better way to handle this guy without saying “that’s against the rules”.  When TTM and every other phone sex service allows ageplay and more, it’s hard to hear that after you’ve spent $100 on a PSO.

HOW DO WE STOP THEM FROM GOING THERE WITHOUT LOSING THEM AS CUSTOMERS?

They get told ‘what you’re saying is wrong and against the rules and to stop!  That ends your income too!

WE HAVE TO FIND BETTER WAYS TO HANDLE THIS! LET’S GIVE EACH OTHER SOME ADVICE.

We/I know that stopping him in his tracks with “That’s against the rules” is pissing guys off and that’s ending with bad feedbacks or abuse.  There are many ways to handle this without throwing up a brick wall.  I have many ideas but use most of them for my NiteFlirt training sessions.  Here’s one though.

Scenario 1. Ok, so customer stays on the call for a long time and at minute 61 starts talking about minors.

Flirt: “USE HIS NAME..OR say in an even tone with your sexy vide…NO, NO, NO, (insert kind euphemism here, hon, sweety etc…) we’re not going to go there…everyone we talk about will be 18 or over, ok?  “You can think anything you want, but all of our fantasy players are at least 18, ok?”  Normally, he’ll be OK with it.  You aren’t saying NO stop it, stop being turned on, follow the rules, you’re just saying, “I’m not cool with that…but let’s keep going.

Any more ideas?  Write them in the post and I’ll put them here!

AVOIDING BEING USED BY WEAK MEN WHO USE ONLINE SEX WORKERS’ TO ABUSE

I received this report recently, but this isn’t abuse. Since no one knows the flirt who posted, I am hoping this isn’t embarrassing or shaming, but can be seen as a learning tool.

Many flirt’s who don’t have a robust customer base may at times find themselves being ‘leveraged’ by men who know that.  They chide, spend, repeatedly cajole and at times…demand something that is against the flirt’s principles.

This is the case below. My notes in red.

Customer name: Cujo Lee
Date of offense: over a couple of months (This wasn’t necessary)
Offense Details:
Lee is a loaded guy who uses that to manipulate and coax me to do what he wanted. (you let him and his ‘money’ manipulate and coax you) He sends big tributes for gifts and things initially, but if he likes you he will try to make you break TOS.. (He liked you or he wouldn’t have spent so much money on you. How you responded to his ‘gifts’ was your first mistake did you seem new to this? Were you too grateful?

Act like you DESERVE THEM. But say thank you politely. 

Asked me repeatedly for my personal bank details to “Spoil me” (Assuming you were on cam, your facial expressions and words could have made him feel like he was off his rocker by asking) eg: “A gasp! “I’m not giving you or anyone my personal bank details! Are you crazy?  because “it’s just easier than tributes”, your response…(“what’s difficult? you send them I deposit them”? Works for me! LOL”

You may want to remind a customer like this that-“I am sure you understand as much as I enjoy money, because they pay my bills, I also have to protect my privacy”.

kept bringing up me taking a flight to meet him in his city, (Giggle and roll your eyes, “you and every other customer” –seems like you’re accustomed to women who sell their bodies for money, but as you can see, I don’t even do nude cam from the privacy of my own safe home, so that’s a no…and that’s the end of that subject! 

It also helps to remind him you get plenty of gifts and tributes and he’s no different than the rest of them) kept pushing my emotional and sexual boundaries (I am not sure where emotionality comes in to the scene except you didn’t set the parameters of this ‘relationship’ right from the start, he’s a customer and you’re a service provider) Maybe you made yourself too available to him?  If hew was gaslighting you, read the post about narcissistic abusers and how they gaslight. 

when I put my foot down numerous times. (YOU DIDN’T PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN, YOU SHOULD HAVE TURNED OFF YOUR CAM AND SAID INTO THE TELEPHONE, ‘I AM GOING TO HAVE TO SEVER THIS CALL AND ALL FUTURE CALLS UNLESS YOU RESPECT ME AND MY BUSINESS AND STOP ASKING FOR THINGS I DON’T OFFER, UNDERSTAND ME?”)

Niteflirt is NOT a sugar website (but he chose you because you don’t do nude shows and saw you had principles, this exchange never had anything to do with sugar baby type stuff, unless he talked about that site, remind him that those were whores…His attempts at getting to you were purely a power play on his part to get you to abandon your principles for money) and he treated it completely like it was. Because, he’s a lonely loser who has to pay women, which is normally a sign he is not proficient at relationships and/or is a misogynist and a gaslighter. 

I don’t do nudity and he would always ask for videos of me touching myself, (get the tribute and send him a video of you eating a pie and rubbing your mouth with a napkin saying, OMG this is sooo good!”

IT’S YOUR BODY, YOUR TIME AND YOUR BUSINESS! he asked for my panties to be “as sheer as possible”, “Oh, come on ___insert name here, are you really that desperate?” YOU PAY FOR PUSSY! HA HA HA nope, not seeing mine! would offer to pay any amount. (Take his money!) And turn off your cam, laughing at him!

Reminds him clearly who’s in charge here!

I’m usually quite strong and can keep my ground, but he just wore me down to the point where being on the website was unbearable. (YOU KNOW NITEFLIRT HAS A BLOCK FEATURE RIGHT?) 

I can’t imagine what he would do to a newbie flirt, which is why I’m putting this out there. He WILL try take you off site and he is a very rich and powerful man. (No, love, he is a wanna-be powerful man who you LET manipulate you for his money. YOU HAD THE POWER, TO DENY HIM SOMETHING HE WANTED)  See notes:

FROM ADMIN:

NITEFLIRT HAS A BLOCK FEATURE, use it.

There were a number of ways this flirt could have controlled the situation.  The first thing was to walk away from the cam, or turn it off.  He was paying to watch her face while he manipulated her AND TO push her boundaries; if he’s accustomed to women being ‘bought’ it would have been fun to deny him everything he wanted.  He would have enjoyed the cat and mouse at first then eventually he would walk away and find easier prey.

I doubt this was his first experience with this. This man wanted to feel “special” and different than any other man who calls phone sex lines.  He’s not.

Here were some things I would have (and have) done to remind this type of man, who’s in charge.

1.”Tell him, outright, while I appreciate your tributes, it is your choice to send them, I am not EARNING THEM. You can stop at any time.

2. Make comments when he calls, ‘Oh, Hi!, I thought you were someone else’ laughing, I wasn’t looking at my computer.  How are you? This reminds him YOU HAVE OTHER MEN DOING THE SAME THING HE IS.

3.Catch the call before he connects, hang up and change your availability…then raise your rate to $50 per minute!  If he calls back, and says something, just LAUGH AND SAY,  I THOUGHT THIS WOULD BE EASIER THAN TRIBUTES!

LOL See how long he sticks around.  If he does, then it’s a win!  The problem, I find with flirts who want to be ‘nice’ to guys is that on cam your face betrays you.  It’s easier to be firm on the phone, I get that.

4. Turn off your cam line and raise the rate on your phone only line, when you know he is calling.  If he balks at that, tell him he’s lost cam privileges‘.

5 Don’t answer his calls a few times…and when you see it’s someone else calling, answer it.

TAKE AWAY HIS POWER!

If he says anything remind him that it’s a privilege to see you on cam and “if he can’t remember that and be satisfied with what you offer, then it’s phone only for you!”