If a prositute is getting paid, is it OK if she is abused? Is it OK to abuse an animal if you ‘paid for it’?
If you hire an attorney is it OK to abuse him/her? If you are paying a Doctor is it OK to abuse her?
IT IS NEVER ALRIGHT TO BE ABUSED JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE ADVERTISING/OFFERING A SERVICE AND SOMEONE IS PAYING FOR IT! EVER!
Some people were born doormats. Many women are socialized and conditioned at home to ‘please’.
Fortunately, I was not one of those. I believe we all have FREE WILL and just like the steward on the plane says, “put your mask on first, before you assist others”. If you don’t defend yourself, set boundaries and have a strong sense-of-self and set those rules and have expectations of the way you want to be treated, you are allowing others to take advantage of you.
Men are responsible for over 90% of the violence in the world and as sex workers-we have an authority to stay the violence, the disrespect, the ‘demeaning’ of ourselves and women. We have the power!
Just because you offer a service and some man is paying for it DOES NOT GIVE HIM THE RIGHT TO PUT YOU ON THE DEFENSIVE by blurting out personal questions while ignoring you, ABUSE YOU VERBALLY, DEGRADE YOU, DEMAND INFORMATION ABOUT YOU, ABUSE THE NATURE OF ‘ENTERTAINMENT’ AND PHONE SEX OR CAM WORK or DO ANYTHING ‘just because he paying you”.
That mindset is why so many women stay in abusive relationships and continue to be abused by low lifes who otherwise needed to be put in his place.
It is the women who have self-esteem and pride who are responsible for making men understand that rules of personal space, privacy, and self-worth if not taught at home will be taught by strong women with the self-worth to do so.
EACH AND EVERY SEX WORKER (PHONE SEX OPERATOR) has her/his own set of standards.
Mine are high. Some girls actually advertise “rape me”.
I do not allow any customer to blurt out personal questions at me and demand information not presented in my advertisement. I also do not allow men to ‘top me’ or ignore my requests for basic manners.
I am a FemDom and as such will not participate with such misogyny.
If you do, that’s your call-but WE DO NOT OWE ANYONE WHO DEMANDS PERSONAL INFORMATION ABOUT AGE, LOCATION, MARITAL STATUS, ‘REAL LIFE’ PERSONA V. PHONE SEX PERSONA INFORMATION ‘because he’s paying’. THESE ARE NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES!
With that justification, you perpetuate the abuse women suffer each and every day in real life by these entitled weak men who feel justified to beat and verbally and emotionally abuse women, because he pays the bills.